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The 6 T’s of Complaint Recovery

There are 6 fundamentals of grievance recovery, which are very important to the grieving process. Most people try to avoid them without knowing that they are delaying their healing and moving into the future.

Let us discuss them and assess your grieving situation to see if you are or can implement any of these six criteria to recover from your grievance.

Hour

We all need time to grieve, but how long it takes depends on the individual. No one can accurately predict how long the grievance will take to heal. Your friends and family can anticipate and wait for a certain time frame. You may be tempted to set the same expectations for yourself that they have, but if you try to please others, your grief will not be resolved and you will find yourself confused and unable to move on. You will feel anger, guilt, or depression if you are unable to finish the grieving process. Take time to grieve for your loved one until you feel comfortable.

tears

Tears are part of the healing process, so allow yourself to cry all you want. Let the tears flow and cleanse yourself of all the emotional baggage that comes with grieving. If you can’t cry in public, find a safe place like your home or an assisted living facility or in your car. Call someone on the phone who will listen to your pain and validate your tears. It is so amazing how many tears we use during the grievance. We can cry over simple things, so make sure you drink more water because tears tend to dehydrate you.

Speak

I can’t say this enough. Talk as much as you can about the memories you have of your loved one; especially the good ones. Find the people who will listen and understand your complaint. A grievance support group is a good place to start. Talking helps you realize the impact and reality of his death and accept the fact of the finality of his death. Most people feel very uncomfortable bringing up their loved one, but be sure to let it be known that you want to talk about your loved one because this is what will help you the most.

I touched

You will miss the hugs, caresses, kisses and affection of your loved one. You will build a wall around yourself to keep out other people who want to show you affection. Hugs may be repulsive to you and you may feel guilty for having someone show you kindness through a hug or a kiss on the cheek. Drop that barrier. Accept the goodness that others want to share with you. Let yourself be pampered. Don’t be defensive. You deserve to be hugged and comforted after going through such a loss. If you’re alone and without family, arrange for a friend to give you a “healing hug” if you seem or feel like you need it. Grieving children need lots of hugs to make sure they are still loved.

Confidence

Trust yourself to know that you will recover from your grievance. You may begin to question your trust in God and his spirituality. You will feel anger against God. You are in a stage of rediscovering yourself and how you will handle the future. You don’t have to be alone in the decisions you have to make, but if you are alone, trust your instincts and ask for help when you don’t know what to do.

Canvas

Everyone grieves in different ways. Grief is hard work. It’s like painting. It takes a lot of energy from you. You will feel fatigue, struggle, difficulty and demotivation to continue with life. You will need to eat healthy, exercise and take good care of your own well-being. Recognize that healing from grief will take effort on your part, but accepting support can help you not feel like you’re trying so hard.

Be sure to administer all or some of the six T’s of grief recovery to make your life easier and your healing faster for a life of peace and renewal.

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