Whereas with guys, most men seem to be very outgoing, confident, and know what they want. However, when it comes to women or people they like, our egos either go through the roof or drop suddenly and we become too abrupt or too shy and unsure of what to say.
We normally experience this through fear of rejection, taking a hit to our ego, and this is a common problem with a large part of the male population, they all talk and don’t walk.
So what causes this shyness? Well, like I said, the fear of rejection can make any man worry about asking a girl out. Our pride can’t take it, and we’ll probably never talk to her again if we try once and get turned down. Basically we feel a bit silly and we don’t want anyone else to see us being silly.
Another cause is that we simply don’t know what to tell them. It’s pretty easy to talk to a guy. You can relate to one because you are one, but when it comes to a woman, they have so many differences between us; physical and emotional, which makes it difficult for us to engage in conversation.
These are the two main topics that I am going to discuss in this article on how to increase your dating confidence.
So first of all, let’s discuss rejection issues. For men, dating is quite a difficult task. Over the years, dating has changed, but not that much. We are still obliged to take the first step, therefore, faced with this responsibility, we know that when we like a woman, we are the ones who have to start it up and get the balls rolling. If we mess up, we could lose it.
So the number one tip when approaching a woman is to just act natural. Because we’re nervous, most of us overreact to try to impress the girl we love. This can make us look like idiots, and that’s not what she wants. Women are, on average, much more mature than men, so one who starts to overact to get her attention will quickly be rejected.
The second tip is to make sure you ask him. Don’t let someone else do it for you. This may seem a bit silly, but it has happened and does happen quite often. Shy men can’t get the courage to even say something to a woman, so ask a friend to trick them or pop the question. This is literally the opposite of acting like a jerk, and again, it won’t work. Approach her with your own pitch and she’ll be more likely to say yes.
Now the second problem with men is that they don’t know what to say. We might end up blurting out something stupid like, “so what time of the month is it for you?” Big mistake. Of course, the example I gave is quite extreme, but it has happened. Women aren’t that different from men, so if you’re having trouble talking to them, stop and think. If you’re going to talk about anything talk about something you know and you can have a discussion, don’t start trying to make stuff up because he’ll see you’re a phony. The bottom line is that if he doesn’t like you for who you are and what you know, then it’s not going to work. Move on to the next one, don’t obsess over someone who isn’t going to work, no matter how good they are.
So what have we learned? Well, to sum it up, don’t try to impress by exaggerating and at the same time, don’t act coy. Trying to woo the girl of your dreams won’t work either. The most important fact in trying to be confident in dating is accepting that it’s not always going to work out, and if she’s not interested in you being natural, then she’s never going to accept you.