Let’s face it, most threesome initiatives are started by men. There are exceptions, of course, however, in the vast majority of cases, it is the boys who have the idea…
If the woman is the one who has the initiative or if you are both convinced to pursue the fantasy of the threesome, you are one step ahead.
However, if you want to experience a threesome and have never discussed it with your partner, you may need some guidelines to help persuade her to participate in your fantasy.
The first thing you have to keep in mind is that women highly value the bond of a couple.
Women are very apprehensive of anyone and anything that threatens the health and longevity of the relationship between her and her partner.
For most women, a threesome carries risks that they are not willing to accept. The first big obstacle you will face will be overcoming your insecurity.
In addition to the social conditioning you were raised with, there are some obstacles that need to be cleared before you can warm to the idea of inviting another person in for an intimate session.
Any woman who really cares about you cares about the relationship, with all the classic fears and uncertainties about your love. You have to understand that she often asks herself; “He loves me completely?”
“He only loves me?”
“Does he really like me the way I am?”
“Am I woman enough to keep him satisfied?”
“He’ll leave me for a younger/firmer/prettier woman?”
Filled with uncertainty and jealousy, she will defend her territory against all possible threats.
The only person responsible for alleviating the problems mentioned above is the man in the relationship. Happy, confident and confident women are not very jealous.
What behavior triggers your insecurity?
If your partner is jealous, the root could come from your own behavior. If you recognize yourself in any of these behaviors, your partner has every right to feel insecure about your relationship:
You have frequently expressed your discontent with her.
You constantly criticize her and never compliment her.
You flirt with every pretty woman you see
You stay out all night once in a while
You have usually expressed your discontent with your life and your relationship.
You only touch her when you have sex and you don’t express your love often.
You have threatened to leave her.
Any of these types of behavior will quickly turn into constant insecurity, resentment, and jealousy. The insecure woman’s worst nightmare is another woman in her life and the last thing she will do is invite another woman into your bed.
Remember: your partner has to feel very secure in your relationship before giving you a threesome. So make sure you never threaten your relationship. It doesn’t matter how angry or upset you are. She needs to know that you are an item and nothing will break your bond.
Female safety is the number 1 point of consideration
If you want her to be sexually secure, you must work very hard to make her secure in your love. If you are serious about getting your sex life to a level where a threesome can happen, you will need to make your partner so happy, so positive, so confident and secure in your love that they are not afraid to share you with another woman.
What can I do to make her feel safe?
Compliment her and show her how much you love her on a regular basis. Write her a love card, buy her flowers, snuggle with her on the sofa, whisper in her ear how beautiful it is of hers; there are many little things you can do that have a huge positive impact. Feeling loved, accepted and safe are powerful female aphrodisiacs. She will be much more loving if she feels that you are happy with her.
Avoid silly comments about her appearance at all costs, especially if they’re things she can’t change. Avoid telling her that she is fat. Instead of making negative comments, try to compliment her as often as possible.
Don’t flirt with his friends unless you have his approval. If she thinks your threesome is just a devious plot to sleep with her best friend, you don’t stand a chance of pulling it off.
Before you tell her about your intentions to have a threesome, you need to make sure that she is sure that a threesome is not threatening her relationship with you.
Persuasion
It is very possible that your lover also fantasizes about a threesome, but has been afraid or ashamed to admit it. Unlike men, women rarely get down to business and often mince words before telling you what they really want. If you want her to talk about her fantasies, you can encourage her like this:
listening to her The magic words for women are “Interesting, tell me more.” So all you need to do is shut up, listen and learn.
Be supportive of their opinions and ideas. If you criticize or invalidate her, she won’t reveal her private thoughts.
Affirming that you consider all your desires to be perfectly normal. Acknowledge your fantasies.
Making her more receptive to your fantasy by assuring her that bisexual desires do not depreciate your value as a life partner. Tell her that various fantasies about her make her more interesting, seductive, and captivating as a sexual partner.
Don’t push her into something that scares her. She allowed herself to get used to the idea. Let him explore the thoughts with you. Women solve their problems by discussing them; encourage her to talk to you.
using the right words
Women are much more in tune when it comes to using the right words. A common mistake men make when trying to persuade their partners is using the wrong words or the right words at the wrong time.
For example, if she fantasizes about having a threesome with a friend, insensitive guys ask her things like, “Would you like to suck his dick?” or “Would you like to feel her cock in your ass?”
This is normal for a guy, but I can assure you that this type of vocabulary is not appreciated by women.
If she mentions that she would like a threesome with a friend, an insensitive guy might be dumb enough to ask “Would you like to taste her pussy?” or “Would you like me to suck yours?” These kinds of comments go too far, too fast, too soon.
In some cases, I know of guys who reveal their fantasies by saying things like this: “I would like to have sex with two women at the same time.” As you can imagine, this won’t go so well for her.
It’s always better to say, “I’d like to share you with another woman.” This confirms that you are not replacing her and that she is still the center of your world.
A very important point: when he asks you who that woman would be, the best thing you can do is not mention any names. Tell him the choice would be his.
This removes any suspicion that you’ve already done “research” on your project and alleviates their fear that you’ll want someone who doesn’t like it. Furthermore, this will also involve her in the process.
Once you’ve fixed this problem, organizing a threesome will be a piece of cake!
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