According to science and the law of electromagnetism, “opposites attract.” But is this also a human law of attraction? Could be? This could explain why you always see all those classic teams like Abbott and Costello or Tom and Jerry. But just as often we end up seeing that those who tend to stick together are very similar. This would explain why two best friends tend to be very similar; they have to share a similar interest to be friends. There’s also that strange occurrence where older married couples seem to look more and more like each other with each passing year.
Maybe attraction is a chemical thing? Doesn’t the old saying go, “They have chemistry”? Scientists have also discovered that humans produce and secrete pheromones. There is still a lot of research to be done in this area and there are no concrete theories that have emerged from the scientific establishment, but there have been some interesting findings. The most interesting of these showed that women gifted with old shirts worn by different men could actually tell just by smell which man they found most attractive. Basically, they were able to distinguish, without seeing the man, the most handsome men within their study group just by the smell of the men!
But like I said, there is still a lot of work to be done in this area and the fact that we develop as highly visual creatures makes many scientists believe that visual cues are the most important factors in human attraction.
So how does attraction figure in human relationships?
Well, I think this is where there has been little study and if we are going to learn anything, it is best to learn about the complex interrelationships of higher mammals. Let’s not forget that we are a pack animal that likes to live in large and complex social structures. And as such, we know for a fact that all females within complex packs are interested in the alpha male of that pack or group. Genetic survival meets the most powerful male in the clan. But the most powerful male is not the biggest and meanest. If the biggest and baddest were the best and the alpha of our clan, we would still be Neanderthals. The brain is usually power and it is the best way to acquire those things that demonstrate power.
All the men in these complex groups are very interested in the youth and health of their women. To be sure that his genes are passed on, he needs to mate with a young, very fit woman. Youth and fitness are most easily identified by looking for young, healthy bodies. All makeup is designed to create the hyper illusion of youth and vigor in women. So to be attractive, women must work on their health. The fitter you are, the more attractive you will be.
This is attraction at its dirty best. I hope you remember that I am going for the truth here, and the truth can sometimes be a difficult pill. In the future I will deal with some of the complexities of human attraction. Fun little things like blonde hair and big boobs, and why Donald Trump can date models.