Marriage after an affair is doable, but not easy. No one said your marriage was going to be easy; however, it only gets worse when your wife had an affair. To understand how to deal with an affair, you’ll need to know why she cheated on you in the first place. In this article, you will read about 5 reasons why women cheat on their spouse.
Women are not much different than men when it comes to having affairs. Statistically, men have affairs more often than women. However, women still cheat. In some recent studies done, it showed that almost 50% of women have admitted to cheating on their husbands, and almost 57% of men have admitted to cheating on their wives. I personally think 1% would be too high. But the fact is that women cheat too.
One of the reasons women cheat on their husbands is that they no longer get the attention they deserve from their husbands. [Notice I said deserved…very important]. For example, the first year of marriage the husband may have bragged about her cooking. Now, he hasn’t mentioned her cooking in years.
Many times, when a man comes home from work, he walks in the door without really acknowledging his wife or giving her a kiss. You see, men don’t really care about the whole hugging and kissing thing, but women do. And friends, if it’s important to our wives, it should be important to us. Without that recognition, she begins to feel isolated and withdrawn. Now, when her wife goes to work or to college night class and another man is nice to her and maybe opens a door for her, she again feels important.
Another reason why women cheat is that their husbands don’t spend quality time with them. If the husband spends more time watching television than talking to his wife, then he is failing her. The fact that the husband is home does not mean that he is spending quality time with his wife. Things like reading a book or working on the computer without paying attention to her wife can make her feel abandoned by her husband again, and any attention she gets from another man can make her feel important.
A third reason why women cheat is that they feel less sure of themselves than before. Married couples start to get really comfortable over time and stop complimenting each other. Her husband stops recognizing her and her wife begins to feel low and unimportant. Now, if another man at work or school starts to dote on her, compliments her, and invites her to lunch, she once again feels important and alive.
The fourth reason why a woman cheats is intimacy. Yes, women cheat because of sex. Women like sex as much as men, don’t let them tell you otherwise. Sex offers physical satisfaction to both husband and wife. And if the husband stops being intimate with his wife, she will crave that physical attention. Some women will act out and seek sex outside of marriage. Happens.
The last reason we will discuss why women cheat is finances. I don’t want to imply that women are gold diggers because they are not. But, here is the scenario. The couple has a mortgage, two car payments, day care, utility bills, school, groceries, credit card bills and a long list of other items that deplete the bank account every month and leave the family financially desolate. If another man in her life (a co-worker or coed student) starts offering her some bling or offers to take her to some fancy restaurant, he may feel the urge to cheat. Even if it’s just for fun.
As I said earlier in this article, in order to deal with an affair, you’ll need to know why it happened. Most of the time it could have been avoided if you had paid more attention to it or vice versa. If you love her, then marriage is worth pursuing and I wish you the best with that. Seek help from a counselor, a church member, or books and courses you can find online. Remember, a wife is for life.